Because when we did what we needed to do, learned those lessons that are out there for us to be picked up. We can leave that place for us to never return again.
For a new chapter to open up that is good for our heart.
Tag: sex
Is having a love relationship important?
In my previous story I am giving an example based on a story that I heard from a Japanese fellow.
On how Japanese people start having a relationship first, before going on a first date.
With this in mind, it seems quite simple I would say.
To start a relationship.
And I believe in the quest of understanding what the start is of a relationship.
I believe it is the question to be asked first.
Is having a love relationship important?
What is the start of a love relationship?
A Japanese guy explaining that Japanese people start having a relationship, to go on a first date.
I needed to let that sink.
‘Is that something possible?’
Was something that I thought.
The start of coming together is different from what it is known, in Western reality.
A new love is waiting
Where there are endings, there are also new beginnings.
As I am still reflecting and making space for a proper closure.
It is that things are starting to open up for me.
A new way of living, which was perhaps always how it was intended.
But it is this reflecting mode that I am in, that starts to give me some realizations about my life as a lover.
What is the purpose of being single?
We were sitting close to the water.
Not that we were at the beach or sitting on the edge of a fountain.
It was a big pond, at least this how I would call it.
The quirking of the frogs, if that is a pronunciation of the sound they are making, sometimes interupted our conversation.
They were not in that pond we were sitting at, however they were in a little water, close to that.
Perhaps it was something that they wanted to say, however it was only the loudness of their sounds that could come that far.
What about a new sexual community?
The first time I was in Lisbon, I went to places to see what the city was like.
I was amazed, better to say surprised about the openness of sexuality.
Not to say that there was a lot of sex in the streets, but for example gay people walking hand in hand. Openly.
Just a lot of gay people being there. Generally.
Not that they were open about their sexuality.
And not so many people being bothered about it.
‘What do you mean by something casual?’
It is funny.
Whatever is happening on dating apps.
I have had this experience many times.
‘That I was looking for something casual’.
Those were the exact words I have been using.
I have found that the meaning of casual has taken its own turn.
According to the men that I have been speaking to, about this.
The last one said, that brought this back to my mind :
‘Over here something casual means usually just having sex’.
He ended with some laughter.
‘hahaha’, is what he said.
What is it to be a Hedonist?
‘What is this thing with Hedonism?’ I asked him.
He took something out of the fridge and walked back to the stove. He was cooking. I was sitting on a little stool, a glass of red wine was on the table.
Are we stuck in love options?
‘I am curious if you will write something about me..’
I was dazzled by everything we talked about and also a bit of the wine we had just been drinking.
There was a little pause, before I answered.
A genuine love question
‘Why don’t we skip the common..?’ Is what he wrote to me on Tinder.
‘What do you mean I asked him?’