It is funny.
Whatever is happening on dating apps.
I have had this experience many times.
‘That I was looking for something casual’.
Those were the exact words I have been using.
I have found that the meaning of casual has taken its own turn.
According to the men that I have been speaking to, about this.
The last one said, that brought this back to my mind :
‘Over here something casual means usually just having sex’.
He ended with some laughter.
‘hahaha’, is what he said.
I still don’t know if I find that very funny, but it was to him at least.
That is a good thing, is what I think.
There are some things I find hard to understand.
Because before he explained to me, what casual was meaning where he was, he had asked me the following :
‘So when you said on the app, that you are looking for something casual….
What do you mean by that haha’.
I answered with :
‘I am in the middle of a lot and I already have these sexting experiences’.
If it was true, I can’t tell.
It was just not something I was looking for or that I wanted to attract in the first place.
However, by saying this, I gave him an answer in this way.
How come it is that we need to explain what something casual means?
I am not saying this from a feminine perspective, but more in general, is what I think.
And since when does casual means just having sex?
I can understand, that he needs to know what I mean with casual to understand if we are on the same sight.
But, honestly, that is a bit boring story.
Has dating, whatever that really means, become a world of ‘just having sex’ and not just a start from a casual point, to let it evolve into more?
Not even speaking of having sex, as a point to start.
Because honestly, that would make more sense to me.
Has the order of how to meet, date and perhaps even have sex taken its own turn?