When it comes to relationships, there is something I am thinking about.
It is an extension of my search for a successful relationship.
A question I asked, not that long ago.
‘What is a successful relationship?
I believe there is a different consideration to be mentioned.
Not just the one considered love, but the one that has to do with work.
Something underestimated perhaps or nothing we are really thinking about.
And that is not the first time I am saying this.
‘Work Life balance’ is a common thing that is known.
So, I am not going to repeat it here.
However our relationship with work is something we forget.
Not only or just the one that we have with colleagues, superiors and managers.
A simple google search tells me that working relationships are the connections you form with coworkers, colleagues and managers in the workplace.
Although the relationships you build with colleagues and managers may not be as intimate as those you have with family and friends, they are nonetheless crucial.
The point I’d like to make is there is something more to it.
Not only it is about the connections we have with these people that are surrounding us at a place called work.
But more important for me is the relationship we have with work itself.
Something I haven’t read about or hasn’t been mentioned before.
It is the unspoken word that I like to speak.
To say, what is the starting point?
When it comes to the relationships we have related to work.
Is it the ones we have with our colleagues, superiors and managers?
Or does it start with ourselves?
How we built that connection and how we are handling ourselves?
When it comes to work.
To say, those are not really questions.
Just another form of reality.
That we can have the focus on the relationship connected outside of ourselves.
However, we need to start to take a look at where we are in relation to work.
And that makes sense to me.
I find that interesting.
Even when I am the one saying it.
What the conclusion is, I can’t really say or tell.
It was just something I was thinking about.
That when it comes to work, the relationships we have with our coworkers is important.
However, I believe it starts with our own relationship with work first.
Something that is forgotten.
Or at least what I am believing.
Where the focus is shifted to something that is perhaps important, yes, but if we don’t understand our relationship with work first, then the rest doesn’t matter much.
It could even be that we don’t feel appreciated or not understood, because we didn’t explore this first.
Can you understand that?
This network inside ourselves will fall apart, only because of this piece missing.
Or just something I am metaphorically saying.
That we feel we should work harder or have thoughts why others are not doing what they are supposed to be doing.
‘Why should I be doing all the work then?’
Is a question that is repeating inside ourselves.
A reality many are facing.
Not just some examples that I am mentioning.
It is something that is crawling under our skin, staying in our mind and it feels like it is fucking up your brain.
‘What did I do wrong?’
‘To deserve this?’
‘I never asked for this?’
Are the questions you are asking yourself.
Only because we didn’t figure out that relationship with work.
It is a truth out there and not that hard to believe.
Just a truth not many people are aware of.
Of course it could have a deeper meaning, but to understand just this, could be a starting point to have this resolved.
Beautiful, isn’t it?
What I try to say is that relationships are important.
In general and specific.
Something we know and are understanding.
There are many forms. Some we know of and some are hidden for us.
However, it doesn’t matter that much.
What is important is to understand where to start from.
What needs your attention and your focus.
To find that entrance on solving and breaking through.
‘What is prohibiting us from finding that connection?’
I believe that is the question that needs to be asked.
The bottom of where it starts.
To understand the relationship with ourselves.
Where the rest will just follow through.