I heard they were having a fight.
It wasn’t a particular fight.
And it wasn’t that I overheard anything.
But somehow I had heard that there was a fight and my name was mentioned.
I believe that I might even have been the cause of this fight.
I was surprised to know.
Surely.
Why would you have a fight over me?
Is what I thought.
But it has nothing to do with me.
I am not that important honestly.
Why would you have a fight where you involve a different person?
Honestly.
As far as I heard about the fight and knew I was involved, I was trying to figure out what that meant?
Can we use other people to walk away from our own responsibilities?
To not take care of a situation?
To not take care of our own feelings?
The question is :
Is fighting over another person the way to go?
Could it perhaps even be a way out?
However, I don’t know for what.
But something else I was thinking and perhaps wondering.
Could it be that we are not strong enough and therefore involve other people in a fight?
Is to blame someone else easier than to accept we are not strong enough?
To take care of ourselves, of our own thoughts, feelings and situations?
Are we too comfortable with playing this victim role and this is what it has become for females in society?
When it comes to women.
Are we playing a victim role and fighting with our partner, to make them bind?
‘Look what this other person did?’
‘I don’t do these things.’
When you involve another partner to start a fight, just to prove you are a good person.
I believe honestly this is a weakness.
It means you have just given all your power to that other person you started a fight over.