‘What is this ‘Love Language?’ Is what I asked.
I was having my third alcoholic drink and felt confident enough to finally ask.
Sometimes it’s this liquid courage that I need.
The girl I asked it to, took her phone and showed me something.
I looked, but all was blurry.
It was because of the drinks.
So I focused on her words.
‘You have five types of love language’, she said.
She showed me her phone again.
I didn’t even try to look this time.
Her voice was loud, I could hear her clearly.
‘So what are they?’ I asked.
‘Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch’.
She said it with so much confidence. I just believed it straight away.
There was no doubt, these were the languages of love.
But I questioned. To myself.
‘Aren’t there more books about love languages?’
I didn’t say this out loud.
Not that I had been reading any of them, but I remember I googled it once, or twice and remembered there were more books about love languages.
What or how wasn’t really what my mind wanted to know.
The alcohol in my drink didn’t allow me to think more than this.
A blessing and a curse.
Is what I said to the girl.
The alcohol had slowed down my ability to process.
To give me some time to think.
I asked her. ‘What are your love languages?’
She started talking and naming a few.
Her explanation helped me to process what for her the 5 types of languages meant.
‘Interesting’ is what I thought.
But when it comes to dating.
Where does this love language come together?
Where in dating, should you know about love language?
And if at all. Are there really the languages you need to know and those the only ones you can speak?
Or is it just an explanation of a better understanding of yourself?
So you can make a change in the love language you speak?
For a better relationship.
Perhaps that is a question.