Lately my mind goes to the word commitment.
What that means and how that looks like .
Perhaps it is not only about being committed, but even more about what happens before.
And perhaps binding comes even after commitment.
Who knows really?
These thoughts don’t come out of nowhere.
Someone that I know went into a relationship.
The time frame of when this happened is not of essence.
I was a bit on the sideline of it, as I saw ‘things’ happening.
I didn’t pay too much attention to it.
We are all free to do whatever.
Not to undermine this beautiful process of falling in love, but it is a delicate process that I believe when done properly both people go through separately, to come together at one point when the individual process has finished and the time of being together can start.
I believe that is where we bind and we call it commitment, to be in a relationship.
I hope you are still with me here.
I had given some easy advice to just one of them.
‘That person is not in a good place’, I had told.
It wasn’t an interference, but something I felt I at least needed to say. Not even a warning.
It was not a judgment for that person to base any action on.
But if that would be the case. It would come from a place where the other person is not in a good place. And the story would unfold by itself.
Was I surprised when I was informed they were together?
Perhaps just a little.
But I just wondered. Was this real love?
Can we be in a place that is not good and still find someone?
When we are in this kind of place.
Do we need that process of binding to commit?
Or are we just lonely and we need someone to comfort our needs, because that is just easier?
Whatever the answer is to these questions.
I believe it isn’t love.