‘I envy you for your choices’.
It is what someone said to me one day.
‘That you are a bit picky when it comes to men’.
I was silent when it was said to me.
I didn’t really know what the person, meant by this.
Although, from my own perspective I knew exactly what it was.
It is just that I don’t settle that quickly.
It doesn’t make me hard to get, however I can understand that some people can interpret it like this.
I rather take the time to get to know someone and that takes time.
It is what it is.
Love doesn’t come with a simple dinner and a good glass of wine.
It isn’t about having the same interests or that you join the same gym.
That is not where you meet love.
It is not about meeting standards, nor that it is something I want to get off my list.
Something that is on a list in the first place.
However I can understand that it can come across of something a bit picky.
Love is an investment.
At least that is what it is to me.
I rather take it slow and see what is there, than to commit to something I don’t really know what it is.
It is not a pair of shoes, nor just a fashion item.
And even when it comes to that, I don’t look and just buy something.
Good things come with time.
Not even speaking about patience.
Although Love is all that.
We are talking about feelings and another human being.
Also speaking about myself.
I want to make sure, that whatever I commit to is true and real.
Not something I can not rely on, or is just a fantasy.
Detachment can be far more worse than attaching.
It is not so weird I want to take my time.
Not that I don’t want to see what is out there.
To experience and to feel.
What life is about in general.
We can be together for a temporarliy being.
And that is even something we can consider to be a commitment.
To say that I can have some fun, let’s call it even a lover.
But when it comes to love and especially commitment.
I don’t settle less than anything that is good for me.