The start of a love relationship seems so simple.
Something I am thinking after writing my last story : ‘What is the start of a love relationship?’
I mean, there are so many people together, in a relationship I mean.
It can’t be that hard, I am thinking.
In my previous story I am describing a part of Japanese dating culture, I heard from a Japanese fellow.
On how Japanese people start having a relationship first, before going on a first date.
With this in mind, it seems quite simple I would say, to start a relationship.
However, coming from the point of Western dating reality, it sounds a bit weird.
Where we might like someone, go on a date a few times and have sex.
Perhaps do that a couple of times and after some months we call it a relationship to make it formal.
In the quest of understanding what the start is of a relationship.
I believe it is the question to be asked first.
Is having a love relationship important?
As said in my previous story there are outlined paths, when it comes to dating.
Not a guarantee as such or saying it should be like that.
Coming from this example of Western and Japanese dating.
Both have a different way of starting a relationship.
As I am letting my thoughts just for what they are, for once.
I am feeling, the world is surrounded by just that.
Or just my perspective on it.
It is the world as we have come to know.
Where having a relationship, to be with someone, is important.
It gives a form of existence.
I guess just true, to some extent.
What is so important for having a relationship, you can think for yourself.
I mean, for all can be different.
It can be cultural, perhaps linked with traditions, norms, values or for some even religion.
It can also be a form of escaping, of war or a regime we live in.
Which is for some true.
‘But is it really?’
The question that raised my mind.
‘Is it really important, to have a relationship?’
To be with someone, to start with.
Perhaps the start of a relationship, is just to be with someone.
What does it really mean, is the underlying current.
Perhaps even the root of what should be changed.
What are the benefits gained to have such a thing?
Since to me a relationship seems more like an object to me.
Don’t ask me why, I am just distancing myself in this way.
I mean, what are really the benefits of a relationship?
Are relationships there because of the society we live in?
To be accepted by others?
Or to fulfill a need in ourselves?
I know this sounds a bit negative.
However, for a lot of people this is a form of reality, without even knowing they are living it.
Why not just mention it the way it is.
Which is not a particular question.
I am just questioning what the benefits are of a relationship.
Not merely a question why.
And more specifically, why should I.
However perhaps it is the question I should be thinking about.
Asking myself or I should raise.
Because the world as I know seems alright.
Me alone with my thoughts is sometimes already quite a lot.
What could a relationship add?
What I try to say is I don’t feel I am missing out on anything and what I see in the world around me, it doesn’t really seem important.