I was going through my own pictures on my phone and saw some video’s I once made.
One was when I was celebrating my 37th birthday.
A little game I played, with people I once knew.
It was actually a drinking game, where questions were asked and then we had to drink at some point.
I don’t really know how it was played, since we decided to just answer the questions.
We had to laugh a lot about it.
About the answers.
But it wasn’t much about the questions, answers or the celebration of my birthday.
It was about something that I heard, when watching another video.
It was said that the older you get, it is more difficult to be able to find love.
It was said by a woman, however I didn’t take it personally.
Although it is thought that for women who are getting older it is more difficult to be able to find love.
I believe because they have an clock, that is ticking.
To me it sounds that it is opposing problems to women.
Problems who are not necessarily there.
For starters, not all women want to have children.
But for me it is not about thinking differently about what is said about this.
I believe it is just something that has been said for a long time, that we have started to believe that whenever we are getting older, it is harder to find love.
I am not going to say that whenever it comes to love, age doesn’t matter.
The thing that I want to express is that the older we get it doesn’t mean that finding love is getting more difficult.
To me thinking otherwise is negative thinking and perhaps even a sign of depression.
This is not just my opinion.
I mean I am 38 and yes still single.
But I don’t think that love is about being single, engaged or even being married.
I believe that whenever we think in this way we surpass what we really want and what matters.
To come back at my age.
Since I reached this age, it doesn’t feel to me that my age is a block to love.
Receiving or giving.
Perhaps also because I am not attached to that meaning of being single or anything else that we believe is in connection with love.
That I need to have children at a certain age, or else I would miss the boat.
However I have no idea what boat that is.
And if there is a boat in the first place I wouldn’t want to reach that destination.
Missing something doesn’t sound that appealing to me.
I would rather have something resourceful and abundant.
If you want to know in which boat I am sitting, in that boat you can find me.
Since I passed the age of 35, it is that I also understand things much better.
I can’t really say if this is about love specific.
As I said I am still single.
However, to me that doesn’t really matter.
It is about the understanding that whenever we get older it really doesn’t mean that finding love is more difficult.
Because to me, whenever we think like that, we keep a burden on our shoulders, that is blocking us from love.
This is for men, women and people in general.
But to me, I don’t think, feel and experience it this way.
For me love is love, no matter what age.
If at all love is connected to age.
It is not a point that I want to make, but just to say that I believe that love isn’t more difficult when I get older.