A new way of setting boundaries.
When I say engaging, I am always thinking in the way before marrying someone.
The engagement, asking if someone wants to get married with that person.
And then that time leading up to the celebration.
But it was that I was on my instagram and that thought of engagement changed.
Not so much about the meaning of engagement I already knew, but that there are more meanings to that word.
For some time I have been on my instagram and I wanted to grow my account a little bit.
I had the feeling that I had enough on my account, for people to show and perhaps even wanting to know a little bit more about me.
And so I was investigating on how to do that.
To see what to do.
The way it is mentioned on the platform is quite easy.
There are a few things said.
Or things the algorithm is looking at, to have more visibility.
Comments, likes and shares are one of them.
And yes, I am aware I am mentioning this in one sentence.
Another thing is ‘engaging with your audience’.
As that sounds a bit intense, it was the words engaging that caught my attention.
What does that mean?
I questioned myself.
As I am still in that process of finding that out.
Perhaps I need to do other things first, before engaging with my audience on the platform.
And so, it was another form of engagement that I discovered.
Something that happened in my private surroundings.
Or perhaps I was doing it consciously.
It could be.
Engaging is not just something we have to wait before getting to that point of someone wanting to get married with us.
But to understand is about how we act, what we do and to who we are talking to.
I believe that is engagement in its essence.
And so it happened, that I stopped talking to some people.
I can’t really tell if it was due to the words I was reading in search of getting more followers.
To me it sounded a bit far from my own reality.
So, it could be that something in me was triggered, in a positive way, to start acting in the proper way of engagement closer to what I was knowing.
Or what it could be.
I believe it is a bit of a gray area there.
Of what came first.
But the point I’d like to make is that engagement is that we are aware of who we are talking to.
I guess that is the start of it.
That is something that is most easy to do.
Something we don’t really think about.
I guess that is where the magic happens.
And bringing this awareness about talking, can change that reality of leading the way of what engagement is.
That question before getting married.
Isn’t that romantic?
So to me it made sense that this is the start of understanding with who we are engaging.
But, honestly I still don’t know who my audience is.
It could even be that I didn’t know this, because I was engaging with the wrong people.
That it was messing with my head.
Just something I was thinking about, to make this gray area a bit more clear.
However, whatever it is.
To stop talking with certain people, or not spending your time with them, can lift you up.
I don’t mean that it makes you feel better, but of course it could.
What I mean is that it can elevate you in a way that it raises your vibration.
Doesn’t that sound fabulous?
A tool to make you become who you are, by engaging the right way.
A new way of setting boundaries, without actually saying no, but just to keep silent.
As an example.
Because you are engaging with yourself.
Understanding who you are talking to or what you are doing.
Who you are spending your time with.
And then perhaps after that there are more people that will follow you on that social platform.
Sounds great to me.