“You are too dominant”, he said to me.
I believe it was just about a week ago.
I don’t think I said anything in return.
I stayed silent.
I didn’t wonder why, because why should I.
That conversation continued.
However I think it was more a monologue from this person.
That I was too strong.
I never wondered if that was the case.
Just that it was something he said to me.
There wasn’t a form of identity that I felt connected to.
Something I identified with, so to speak.
That is where I left it for a little bit.
Because, yes, I did think about it after that monologue ended.
However, I thought it was weird to say to someone.
Being dominant, doesn’t really say anything.
At least when there is no reference to say it.
You know, it was said to me without any background to it.
I mean, there wasn’t something we talked about in this sense.
Not a particular conversation, that would be a base to start from.
It all came to me a bit out of blue.
Honestly.
I was surprised, at least.
Which says more about this person that said it to me.
We can metaphorically walk over someone or hear that we are ‘too dominant’.
What is really interesting is the reason behind it.
Why is this happening in the first place?
I can say, most of the time it has nothing to do about the person that is being called this.
Dominant or anything else.
There really is no difference.
If you think about it, you know this is just right.
When the context is missing, it doesn’t hold ground.
At least not to me.
I believe this is also why I stayed silent.
Perhaps the lesson is we can say something we think is right to express.
However, without any story behind it, it doesn’t hold anything.
It could say something about the person that is saying these words.
As a reflection to them.
Or just they want to be interesting and say things that just don’t make sense.
Maybe it is just in their own mind.
That is also possible, of course.
Somehow it has become normal that we can say whatever we want without thinking or understanding what it actually means.
To other people, and of course what it means for ourselves, in the first place.
I think that is really a problem.
Saying things without a solid ground, only because it is available to say or speak up.
That isn’t freedom of speech to me.
It is just foolish, if you’d ask me.
Because yes, I can ‘walk over’ someone.
I can come across too strong or just vulnerable.
Which could mean the same thing.
In its essence.
Whatever is important to know is that we sometimes have to be someone in a specific situation.
In a certain context, with some kind of background.
What I try to say is that things don’t always just happen without any reason.
There is always more to a story, then the simple fact of being something that someone calls us.
It doesn’t say anything about us as a person.
It is just a moment in history of our own legacy.
If at all I have to name it, strong wouldn’t fit the bill.