I was wondering if boys think the same as girls, if they think further when they meet someone.
Would they think about getting married, fantasizing about their outfit at the altar?
Perhaps it is more innocent, or less far fetched.
I don’t know how to explain otherwise, for the simple fact I am just asking.
If boys also do that.
Although I write about love and wonder many times if people understand what I am writing.
An insecurity I am facing or just thinking if my stories are ever going to be read and spread.
We talk so much about love, thinking we know what that means.
What it is and how that feels.
But if we truly know what love is, shouldn’t we be talking less?
If there are no doubts and mysteries, why is this something we want to reach?
I just don’t believe a lot of people are together with each other from that perspective, if I look around me.
Even my parents as an example.
They were arranged married, with perhaps their own reasons for them to be together.
I can’t ask them, they passed away already for some time.
What love truly means, nobody knows.
I think, at least.
I was sitting in the tram, after doing yoga, where this question was showing.
‘Is he thinking about me, the same as I am doing?’
It doesn’t matter what I was trying to ask with this.
I don’t think I should have these thoughts in the first place.
I think we all have thoughts.
Sometimes we think about others and sometimes we don’t.
Sometimes I think someone is stupid and think to myself.
‘Why is that person doing that?’
I think : ‘That is wrong’.
‘There should be a better way to act’.
Or I am thinking : ‘What was this person thinking?’
I mean it a bit negative.
With all these thoughts, we keep ourselves occupied.
Where I also think we lose some kind of focus.
Thoughts are thoughts.
They don’t distinguish, right from wrong.
People do that.
With the act of thinking about others in a negative way.
We are losing a part of ourselves.
Giving our power to that other person, by the simple act of that one thought.
Although they would never know and perhaps not even feel it.
Just something I am feeling.
I understand it can be difficult to stop thinking about someone.
Even when in a positive light.
I mean, when we think about whether or not that other person has the same thoughts as we are having.
This is a loss of power to what is truly important.
The focus to ourselves.
We can make a change by acting up on.
I will give a few examples.
A walk in the park, getting some fresh air or feeling the beaming sunlight as a reflection to our face.
A look in the mirror, eating a sandwich, taking a shower.
I believe the real question is : ‘Why do we want to know if someone thinks about us, the same as we think about them?’
We might feel lonely inside and if we’d know someone thinks the same, it could be a solution to that loneliness.
Another solution would be, putting ourselves first.
Did you ever think about that?
How we think about our hair, our body, our feelings or more simple things.
It is again a change in focus, where we’d shed a light to ourselves, instead of creating space for thoughts to come in.
Where we don’t even known if they are our own thoughts to begin with.
A turn around in events, where we feel less lonely and with a lighter heart.
Because a heavy heart is hard to love.