Lately, I am thinking about the word commitment.
What that means and how that looks like .
Perhaps it is not only about being committed, but even more about what happens before.
Binding.
These thoughts I had, didn’t come out of nowhere.
Someone I know went into a relationship.
The time frame of when this happened is not of essence.
I was a bit on the sideline of it, as I saw ‘things’ happening.
I didn’t pay too much attention to it.
I mean, we are all free to do whatever.
Where I am not undermining this beautiful process of falling in love.
I believe it is a delicate process that needs silence and goes without interference.
I had given some easy advice to just one of them.
“That person is not in a good place”, I had told.
It wasn’t an interference, but something I felt to say.
I didn’t mean to say it in this way, for this person to base any judgment or any action on.
But if that would be the case. It would come from a place where the other person is not in a good place and the story would unfold by itself.
Was I surprised when I was informed they were together?
Perhaps just a little.
I just wondered. Was this real love?
Can we be in a place that is not good and still find someone?
When we are in this kind of place.
Do we need that process of binding to commit?
Or are we just lonely and we need someone to comfort our needs, because that is just easier?
Whatever the answer is to these questions.
I believe it isn’t love.