Many times I have thought, love starts when there is trust.
‘If I can trust you blindly, I can love you blindly’.
It didn’t come out of nowhere I had these thoughts about trust and love, connecting them together.
When coming from a relationship of lies, my first questions were raised about this.
Not even stating what the effect of the lies had done to me.
Just the questions remained.
Perhaps even a way for me to search for ground to experience love.
Love in its essence.
But are trust and love connected?
Do we need trust to be able to love?
Better to say does love start with trust?
And if not where does love start?
When typing this, my mind is going back to a moment, where I had asked something.
Something for my sanity and wellbeing.
I had asked, “Can you turn off the music?”
“I am sleeping and I need to wake up tomorrow in the morning”.
I remember I even went out of bed for this.
I had asked it twice and also went out of bed for it twice.
I believe when it comes to love, we need to have our needs met.
It means I am expressing my love for myself, in this context of saying to turn something off, that I need to sleep and want to sleep.
In general, needs should be met.
Meeting these specific needs, brings safety and in essence trust.
If it is a stone to build further on and say we need this to love?
I can’t say.
However it is a good start. As we feel safe when our needs are met.
And with safety comes trust.
Does love start with safety and trust?
I actually don’t think so.
Not in this context at least.
But it gives a feeling we matter, that we exist.
Which in itself is already a form of love.
Without existence and the feeling we matter, we are not able to love and be loved.