Where to find someone outside a dating app?
A question I have been asking myself.
It has been coming back more and more in recent days.
I have wondered already for a long time.
What are the options when it comes to finding someone?
Perhaps even when it comes to love.
But that part of love of is not necessary for me to answer.
In general I am curious and would like to know what else is there, when it comes to meeting someone.
Because of the experiences I have had, I don’t think dating apps are a source for me to get together with someone.
I have had more harm then some actual luck.
It is not a frequency I am vibing on.
Those experiences are mended and I don’t want to waist any more time.
The only option is to look outside those apps and see what else I can find.
Which pond to fish or just where I can be a bate for that person to catch.
I guess it goes both ways and one doesn’t exclude the other.
Of course.
There was a lady from Denmark who met the person she is with through renting an Airbnb.
I thought that was nice to hear.
They were both already a bit older.
She told me she retired early, perhaps it was the same for him.
He didn’t tell me, then again I also didn’t really speak with him.
There was a girl from Germany that said she met her lover at a party, a specific discotheque.
Her parents met there also, she told me.
I thought that was sweet and different then what we normally hear.
In my eyes it was more a way of cultural meeting, at least how it felt to me.
She told me that is was a little bit of thing that people were meeting in that specific place.
It made me think if there are actual places where people know that this is where they can meet their potential partner.
I mean, in general we know that in for example a bar, at work or a party we can get together with someone.
That to me is more an average way of finding someone fitting the standard.
I just thought it was extraordinary to hear from this German girl, this was a place where many people would find there future lover.
I did hear them fight several times and it changed my mind just a little if I wanted that for me also.
I have said about people who met through those dating apps, it never sounded to me if I wanted the same.
I am happy they found each other and are happy with what it has brought them.
I just believe love is not a guess or something quite open.
For example when we meet someone, we are having this mindset to see where it goes.
This happens a lot when meeting someone on a dating app and I am not so sure if this is a way that leads to something solid.
A marriage as an example.
Of course this is my opinion and how I see it.
I believe there are certain steps involved with each other, also seperate to be able to give that love a name.
Call it mine, ours or that I am his.
Just to give you a few.
Even if he is on those apps and perhaps I have already met him.
Dating apps are just not a safe and secure form for me to find that kind of lover for my health and sanity.
Something I describe in my story : ‘To have a love that is happy and healthy’.
There are enough stories where convicted people are on those apps.
It is a vibration too low, just only by the thought.
Nothing further I’d add to this.
I believe I don’t have to explain that.
You get my point.
I guess the question remains, what is a place outside a dating app to meet someone?