It is funny, whatever is happening on dating apps.
I have had this experience many times.
‘I am looking for something casual’.
Those were the exact words I have been using.
I have found that the meaning of casual has taken its own turn.
According to the men that I have been speaking to.
The last one said, “Over here something casual means usually just having sex”.
He ended with some laughter.
‘hahaha’, he let me know through the chat.
I still don’t know if I find that very funny, but it was to him at least.
That is a good thing, I think.
However, there are some things I find hard to understand.
Before he explained to me, what casual was meaning to him, he had asked me the following :
“So when you said on the app, that you are looking for something casual….
What do you mean by that haha”.
I answered with :
“I am in the middle of a lot and I already have these sexting experiences”.
If it was true, I can’t tell.
It was something I wasn’t looking for or what I wanted to attract in the first place.
By saying this, I gave him an answer in this way.
I was just trying to be polite, I guess.
I wonder.
How come we need to explain what something casual means?
I am not saying this from a feminine perspective, but also more in general, I think.
Since when does casual means just having sex?
I can understand, he needs to know what I mean with ‘something casual’ to understand if we are on the same side.
But, honestly, that is a bit boring story.
More important.
Has dating, whatever that really means, become a world of ‘just having sex’ and not just a start from a casual point, to let it evolve into more?
Not even speaking of having sex, as a point to start from.
Because honestly, that would make more sense to me.
I question.
Has the order of how to meet, date and perhaps even have sex taken its own turn?