“Can we talk about it later?” I overheard.
It sounded exactly as serious as it was meant to be.
I was in the common area of the toilet.
‘I am at work, will you be home later?’
‘Can we talk about it then?’
The girl, I overheard, continued.
The door of the toilet opened.
The girl came out, she didn’t expect me to be there.
However, I didn’t scare her.
“Is everything ok?” I asked.
I was on my way home.
“Yeah, sort of..”, she said to me.
“I met this guy, just once and then I went out with this other guy”.
“Now the first one is calling, I don’t really know what to do’”.
I looked at the girl, when she was talking to me.
The way she was talking to him, sounded like she was in a serious commitment and something really serious should be talked over.
It was so serious she had the feeling and urge to make a phone call in the toilet.
Where she had to break off whatever she was doing to almost desperately convince him to talk about it later.
However she had only met him once, where she had met another guy after him.
‘It shouldn’t be so serious’.
An assumption I made in my mind.
‘Was this coming from a good place?’
I was asking myself in silence.
It was reminding me of a younger self, I once was.
Standing in the toilet, convincing, talking to a guy.
“Can we talk about it later?”
“I am at work, I can’t talk about it right now”.
A feeling I had done something wrong.
‘Had I really?’
I asked myself again in silence.
The desperation in her voice was the same as mine.
Different toilets, same voice.
A reflection of myself I saw in her.
Had she done something wrong?
Was it just her, or were they both at stake?
Was it miscommunication of a misperception of what is accepted after just one date?
Apparently both had no clue what to do.
“Interesting”, I said to her.
Just a few seconds had passed.
I washed my hands and we both walked out of the common area of the toilet.
If there was more time and she had asked me what to do, I would have told her the following.
“I believe after one date, nothing is real yet”.
That’s my genuine opinion.
However, to me, it showed the guy apparently has feelings.
Calling her, after finding out she has been on another date with some other guy.
The way she was speaking to him, it sounded like she also liked him.
Perhaps the feelings were propelled in a way they had to make a decision of how to move forward and make a decision to commit or not?
A genuine question.
It is just what the situation and short rendez-vous in the common of the toilet was telling me.