I can’t believe this actually happened.
However I doubt I was the first one.
Obviously I have heard about it and seen it with my own eyes, when looking at this documentary about the ‘Tinder Swindler’.
Did I have any thoughts about that?
I am just thinking at that moment.
Nothing seems to be recollecting for me.
I believe I was oblivious and I couldn’t even imagine what could actually happen.
There was a girl who made this documentary happen, about who he is and what he did.
I can’t say if it was reassuring and when I was listening to her words there were mainly questions stuck in my head.
Where was the self awareness?
Besides that, is making him known in this kind of way solving the problem?
Showing his face, letting know his ways and I guess that says it all.
However when I went on this app not that long ago I realized something.
Love scams still happen.
Was it an experience of my own or just something I was feeling?
I can’t really say.
Was I surprised this happened?
I guess just a little bit.
Was it a love scam?
I kept repeating to myself.
I think it was.
However, I didn’t lose any money, nor was I hurt in an emotional way.
Where it is leaving me a good feeling about myself and also it shows the gratitude of my identity.
I guess datingapps do have some kind of purpose.
Perhaps one we are not aware of.
I can understand this is not for all women out there.
Who might have less luck and are left with more than a heartache.
I can’t tell you why, just that it is.
It is a trick they play.
Make you feel emotionally attached by saying and doing things.
Not particularly the ‘Tinder Swindler’.
I have to say, it was all quite obvious what he did and in hindsight I wasn’t surprised that it actually happened.
There were remarks he made that made me question his behaviour.
Perhaps more specifically the words he used.
It were those questions that kept me thinking.
What is he saying?
Why is he saying that now?
Most of all.
Was it necessary?
But to keep it close to my own story.
What happened to me?
He started telling quite fast something very personal.
All to create some emotional attachment, where you wouldn’t think about his actual intentions.
A few days later I wasn’t feeling that well and he was the first to call.
I guess it was easy for him to fill that gap, at least what he thought.
Soon after he made a remark about his Macbook.
It wasn’t loading, it had issues.
He even sent me a picture.
The store had told him they couldn’t help without a guarantee.
I told him I couldn’t help him with his problem either, since I didn’t have that kind of laptop.
Which was not a lie.
However, I don’t think he got the hint.
That I am not that kind of girl.
Where he bluntly asked me if I could get a giftcard for him where he was able to repair his problem.
I simply said : “No, sorry”.
I never heard from him ever since.
Where before he would be all over my phone, texting me, calling and sending pictures.
I was waiting till the evening, making sure he understood my point.
He did indeed, he never texted again.
Then I blocked him and wrote this story a few days later.
His picture on his WhatsApp showed him holding a dog.
I believe he will get what he wants at some point.
There are enough of those girls out there, who would fall into his trap.
Is there anything to do to prevent it from happening?
I guess no.
However, we can always work on our identity and see the truth behind what is happening.
It won’t make those love experiences go away.
For sure these people will find other ways.
However, when we sit on our throne, from a distance and that height.
We can look at it for what it is.
A scar or an awareness about ourselves.
How we acted and what we did to keep control.
Who we really are, perhaps even why we had to endure this hardship.
Or just another love experience in my cabinet of love rarities.