A documentary I watched.
Some time ago.
It passed my eyes when scrolling on my phone.
It kept lingering in my head.
For months and months.
The minute I saw it, I knew there was a story behind it.
Almost the same when you meet a person and you know exactly what and how.
This feeling you need to be with them and what not.
It sounds like a fairytale or a story of love.
For a second I thought this documentary was.
The stories are about women who have been promised eternal love, but have ended up handing over thousands of pounds, being left brokenhearted by men they met on holiday and fell in love with.
I am still figuring out why and how they ended up with them.
The fact remains these women had to endure some hardships in life.
I just couldn’t fully grasp what it meant.
To be in that kind of situation.
These women believe it is real which makes it quite sad to some extent.
It is hard for me to shed tears for ignorant people or just have no clue to start with.
The question remains : ‘Should they marry and get involved in that kind of way in the first place?’
For some they are much older than the one they think they found true love with.
I guess loneliness plays a part, perhaps even the pressure of society to fit in.
Gaining a form of respect.
Money is quite often a reason.
These women believe their loved one is in need and they should be providing them with the money they ask for.
At least the reason I thought is behind it.
To make it look good just a little for these women.
The only thing I can come up with is they think this is what a relationship is or even a marriage entails.
Of course I don’t know what these women are thinking, since it never happened to me.
To say, I can’t tell if it is true to begin with.
I mean, single is still my love status.
When watching this documentary, it was making me think this could be a reason for me, why I am not out there.
I’d rather spend money on me then giving it to someone who might never return it.
I mean, we are talking about thousands and thousands of dollars/euros/pounds.
But even if it is just 5 euro’s, I can buy something nice.
I can’t give an example right away, but I believe you get my point.
It says something about me, how I handle myself through the way I handle my money.
With care and thought.
Although I am the one saying it.
A way to keep those guys away, who think I am a pot of gold or some kind of jackpot.
Believing someone they think I am.
Another thing I was thinking : the weight of marriage can make you do things you don’t have control over.
It could be a reason why these things happen to these women.
Giving solace in some kind of way.
Perhaps to those, suffering with these situations.
Where I can only watch it from a far, at a safe distance.
Warm under the covers of my bed, where I watched that documentary.
The pillow as a shield wrapped in my arms.
But there is more to it.
For you to have a complete perspective.
Some of these men stay until they have their green card fixed or any other paper making them stay in a country overseas.
Honestly, I can’t believe this is happening.
But what can I do?
This is beyond my control and nothing I have power over.
I mean, I can only write it off.
To get a perspective about myself and how this kind of world is amazing to me.
In some way I feel just sorry for these women, at the same time there is not a tear I can cry.
The starting point of all of this is, with advice one of these women was seeking.
I don’t know anymore if it was for herself.
If she was on the go to find her answer why this happened to her.
To get a clearer view on how to help these kinds of women.
She went to a guy who was giving spiritual advice.
He was wearing a mask.
I thought it was a little odd, but when it comes to spirituality it is supposed to be this way.
To prevent people thinking it is a person who is saying it and the words come from them directly.
A way to make sure that message comes across, to not lose its power and have it spread as it should.
From this spiritual entity.
Some guy wearing a mask.
He answered fast, like he forgot to breathe or something.
It made me aware of those words to keep them stored where they have to be.
When this woman asked what this advice would be for those women out there.
He said : ‘Keep your legs closed’.
His words were cut short, they felt sharp.
It could make you angry if you didn’t understand it was spiritual.
It were those words that stayed with me, throughout my journey ever since I heard them.
As an anchor for me when out in the open.
I mean, it can happen when we think we can just do whatever.
Most of the time this is when we are without boundaries, on holiday as an example.
Where we are letting our guard down for the mundane and common.
Where these men have a sense and come in, unless you protect yourself.
Not in the sense of condoms, but I guess these protect in a way.
If you wonder where babies are born and all those other shit stories.
For you to second guess when you meet that someone.
The easiest way to protect yourself, a shortcut to prevent any harm?
For your health, wallet, sanity perhaps even safety.
If you’d asked me of course.
I can only say : ‘Keep your legs closed’.